Those with sexual problems related to chronic back pain often have disk disease or arthritis in the spine , but patients who are recovering from back surgery may also struggle. Brian Lawler dead at Also, they can lay in a side-lying position with him entering from behind sometimes called the fetal position or spooning. You were only supposed to pull the ATM out! Talk it Out For some people, talking about sex comes naturally; for others, their faces turn red even thinking about maybe talking about sex. The study authors suggested that men who get back pain from flexing their spines forward should avoid the side-by-side position, use the back position and also use their hips, not their spine.